Saturday, October 17, 2009
That comic speaks a stark truth that doesn't apply to men only. When I read it the first time I chuckled, then cringed, realizing the truth behind the statement. A sad commentary on our society is that many men do go outside looking for affirmation. Some do it in their work, where their success provides the positive feedback they desire. Others do it in sports or other activities. Some do it in the arms of other women (and men).
But men are not alone. Women who do not feel affirmed will bury themselves in other activities looking for the positive reinforcement they crave. Some find that in their children, their vocation, groups and clubs. And sadly, some find it in the arms of another.
Children are the same way. If a child does not feel affirmed by his or her parents, they will seek out some way receiving that affirmation. The ways that they choose are often not the means their parents and family would choose for them.
The human need to be loved is universal. We know that God loves us, but sometimes we just want someone with "skin" to love us and affirm that we have value. We in the church know this, and the Apostle Paul made a special note of it: Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Ephesians 4:29.
As we look forward to Advent and the Thanksgiving and Christmas holiday seasons, let's make a special effort to affirm and encourage each other. The world does enough to tear us down.